Now, I have thought a lot lately about you young men who are of an age to marry but who have not yet felt to do so. I see lovely young ladies who desire to be married and to raise families, and yet their opportunities are limited because so many young men are postponing marriage....
I realize there are many reasons why you may be hesitating to take that step of getting married. If you are concerned about providing financially for a wife and family, may I assure you that there is no shame in a couple having to scrimp and save. It is generally during these challenging times that you will grow closer together as you learn to sacrifice and to make difficult decisions. Perhaps you are afraid of making the wrong choice. To this I say that you need to exercise faith. Find someone with whom you can be compatible. Realize that you will not be able to anticipate every challenge which may arise, but be assured that almost anything can be worked out if you are resourceful and if you are committed to making your marriage work.
Brethren, there is a point at which it’s time to think seriously about marriage and to seek a companion with whom you want to spend eternity. If you choose wisely and if you are committed to the success of your marriage, there is nothing in this life which will bring you greater happiness."
Thanks President Monson.
Getting married at my age is somewhat looked down on by some members. Believe me I've prayed and pondered if I'm making the right choice. Time after time I have felt peace with this decision. Jordan and I frequently pray together about the matter also. I think i'm kinda experiencing the calm before the storm back wards. Right now its storming down on us like crazy. I'm starting to think that righteous decisions don't go with out persecution and that's okay. If anything, the trials we are facing with the decision to eventually be married has only strengthened my testimony on the matter. Now with that being said, I know marriage won't be a cake walk, it be will tough. But, I would rather go through the tough times being married, having a constant best friend than a soon to be college student alone. Or living with other woman, and no offense to you roomies but that's not something i want for myself. The only roommate i want is my eternal companion. And quite frankly I don't see anything wrong with that.
It's kind of a silly thing that the one lesson always taught to us,, to enter the house of the lord worthily is the decision we ARE making and its looked down upon.. maybe instead of looking down at us, you should get down on your knee's and ask for yourself.
I believe this decision is between God, Jordan, and I.
The temple,,
we're going there someday...(:
I'm so glad you wrote this post. People, especially those of our religion, need to stop being so hypocritical and listen to the words of the prophets. If you are to go back and look through many conference talks there are so many that tell us that as women, getting married and starting a family is our calling in life. Men get the priesthood, and go on missions. We bring life into the world. It doesn't matter your age as long as you are married in the house of the Lord, worthily, you are doing what He would want us women to do.
ReplyDeleteThis talk was given in conference and I feel it made a great point about what "priorities" we put before our calling in life:
"Many voices in the world today marginalize the importance of having children or suggest delaying or limiting children in a family. My daughters recently referred me to a blog written by a Christian mother (not of our faith) with five children. She commented: “[Growing] up in this culture, it is very hard to get a biblical perspective on motherhood. … Children rank way below college. Below world travel for sure. Below the ability to go out at night at your leisure. Below honing your body at the gym. Below any job you may have or hope to get.” She then adds: “Motherhood is not a hobby, it is a calling. You do not collect children because you find them cuter than stamps. It is not something to do if you can squeeze the time in. It is what God gave you time for.”
Sure, that talks a little more on starting a family, but I do believe that marriage is the first step to starting a family, and that is what we, women, were called to do in life.
Now I have had my rant. :) haha.
You're right though marriage isn't always the easiest thing in the world, but to me, it is always always worth it, and has taught me how to love and trust my Heavenly Father more than I ever could've known.
Love this Kylee way to back up the revelation you recieved with a Prophets words no better second witness than that! I am so pleased you are choosing an Eternal Companion who is so wonderful and treats you like the Princess you are. To the Temple you go :).
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